I posted about this on my old blog. I thought I had it over here. So all this time I’ve referred to it and just assumed you knew what I was talking about. We’re either on the same wavelength or you’re all very polite. 😉
We all have that little voice in our head. No, not the one that tells you, “It’s time to clean all the guns!” We aren’t all that special. 🙂 But we do have our inner critic. You know, the one who tells us, “Hey, you suck!” Maybe some get the simple version, like that, a lot of us get a more detailed picture.
This voice takes whatever situation we’re worried about and starts finding flaws in how we’re handling things. Oh, it knows three or four ways we could have done it better – after the fact. And, yes, this voice is particularly loud when we are in the shower or driving in traffic (alone). However, it is probably loudest at 3:00am, when you are wide awake and everyone else is asleep.
I have caught myself churning and churning on (insert worrisome topic here), only to realize I’ve spent about 20-30 minutes getting all wound up over … nothing. Because that’s really what our inner critic does. It winds you up over your own insecurities, not over anything based in fact. Your inner critic operates & thrives on your deep seated fears.
When I catch the bastard in action, I usually slap the steering wheel in frustration, scream & say, “DUCH! GET THE F*** OUT OF YOUR HEAD!” To the other drivers, I probably look like a crazy woman. But, seriously? Screw them. It’s keeping me sane. I do have to wonder, though… You see homeless people on the street having a heated discussion with themselves… Are they arguing with an inner critic that just won’t STFU? Just a thought…
So where does the inner critic come from? :: shrugs :: I’m no Psychologist. I figure it’s part of the “not good enough” package, where you’re required to beat yourself up on a daily basis for one reason or another. We’re all our own worst critic and we all seem to have this “not good enough” streak to a certain extent, some worse than others. Some fall within an average range, some fall on an extreme scale. Self-esteem? Yeah, it’s got a lot to do with it.
A friend of mine heard me talking about this inner critic and knew exactly what I was talking about. She referred to it as her “Inner McFly”. I think this is probably the best description I’ve heard for it yet. I like giving it a name. It makes it easier to yell at the voice and make it STFU.
Hellooooo, McFly! WTF are you thinking? STFU, already!
Yeah. I like that.