Words of Wisdom

My husband forwarded one of those inspirational meme-things you see going around the internet. I don’t normally forward them on, but this one had some words of wisdom we can all use. It was originally in .PPS slideshow format (with a nice soundtrack, I might add). There were 40 in the original deck. I picked out the best, least “cliche” phrases and corrected the spelling and grammar in a few places. I’m now passing on some words of wisdom. 🙂

1. Walk 10 to 30 minutes every day, and smile while you walk.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes every day. Shut the door to the room you are in and put up a “Do Not Disturb” sign if necessary.

3. Listen to good music every day. It is true food for the spirit.

4. When you wake up each morning, say the following:

“Today, my goal is ___________”

5. Live with Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

6. Read more books than last year.

7. Look at the sky at least once a day and realize what a magnificent world in which you live.

8. Eat berries and nuts, drink green tea, and drink a glass of water each day.

9. Drink and a glass of wine each day. Make sure to make a toast to the bounty in your life, and do it with someone whose company you love.

10. Try each day to make at least 3 people smile.

11. Eliminate disorder in your home, your car and your desk, and let new energy flow into your life.

12. Don’t waste your precious time gossiping or regretting the past, dwelling on negative thoughts, or worrying about things beyond your control. Better to spend your energy on what is positive in the present.

13. Realize that life is a school and that you are here to learn. Problems are life lessons.

14. Smile and laugh more.

15. Don’t miss any opportunity to hug someone you appreciate.

16. Life is too short to waste it by hating someone.

17. You don’t have to win every argument. Just accept that you are not in agreement and you can agree to disagree.

18. Make peace with your past so you do not ruin your present.

19. You are in charge of your own happiness.

20. Remember that you don’t always have control over what happens, but you do have control over what you do with the experience.

21. Learn something new every day.

22. What other people think of you is of no concern to you.

23. Love your body and respect it.

24. No matter how good or bad the situation is, it will change.

25. No matter how you feel, get up, get dressed, and be there.

26. Every night before going to bed, say the following:

“I give thanks for ______________”
“Today I succeeded in ______________”

27. Enjoy life. You only have one opportunity. Make the best of it.

Happy Monday, everyone!


Trust is a difficult thing for me. It involves bringing down my defenses, letting someone “in”, and it leaves me feeling so vulnerable.

Communication is vital in building trust. When we communicate with each other, we trust that person to value our opinions or our emotions. If we have a concern in a relationship and we do not communicate that issue, are we damaging the trust relationship? I believe so. (and, yes, this applies in all types of relationships – friendships, family, dating, spousal….). When we communicate that concern, we trust the person to validate our concerns and give feedback on what he or she heard. Perhaps this person also has concerns. This is an opportunity for this person to trust us in the relationship in the same manner. This is one method of building trust, and especially if you come from an environment where communication was difficult. You have the opportunity to learn that communication is safe, and you can trust your friend/family member/partner to not explode.


Trust is something I’ve been working on for a long time. I’ve found the communication piece of the puzzle is the most difficult piece to solve. But today I realized something. I looked at where I was just five years ago and I saw just how far I’ve come on this entire issue. I’ve come a long way…. through lots of communication and trust I’ve built with my close friends and family. 🙂


He’s 14 now. That little baby boy I gave birth to 14 years ago today had the nerve to grow up on me while I wasn’t looking.

He’s taller than me (and quite proud of that fact, I might add). His voice still cracks every now and then, but it’s deeper than it used to be. His feet are bigger than mine. I remember when I used to hold those tiny, perfect little feet and count the toes…. Now those feet stink of teen-boy funk. 😉

High school is next; and learning to drive. :: breathes ::

Damn, this is happening too fast.

My daily reminder

It’s a new year. I’ve never been one for “resolutions”, but I am one for “reminders”. I prioritize my lists, live by my calendar, and I confess – I’m one of these people that doesn’t get it done if it doesn’t wind up in my task list. BUT, I know the importance of my task lists and various tools, and use them to my advantage.

That being said, a good friend of mine pointed me to a wonderful website: http://www.wordle.net/

This site lets you create artwork, or, “word clouds”, from your blog (if it has an ATOM or RSS feed), or you can manually enter text and create your own Wordle. The more frequent you use a word, the larger it appears. If you want to string a phrase, put a tilde (~) between the words.

My Wordle for 2012:


I’ve set this as my wallpaper on my desktop. It’s my daily reminder of the things that are important to me. I’ve had fun with Wordle and I can’t thank my friend enough for sharing this site. Now I’m sharing it with all of you. Have fun!

It will happen before I know it

I had a dream a couple of nights ago that both amused and terrified me at the same time.

My teen boy was driving. Driving a car. While I was in the passenger seat.

I don’t remember much of the dream. I remember we were in a hurry. We were either very late, or we were trying to get away from someone, but regardless, we had to leave quickly. About half way down the road, my teen boy says to me, “So, mom, when are you going to realize I’m driving the car?” At which point, I freaked, said, “OMFG, you aren’t supposed to be driving yet! Pull over!” and promptly woke up.

:: sigh ::

Fair warning, everyone. He has a birthday coming up this month. He will officially be old enough to start taking Drivers Education classes. I’m not saying we’re starting all that. I’m just saying he’s getting to be that age. The streets are safe…for now. 😉

Oh, honey, this isn’t new!

My teen boy was eager to show me this cool new band from the UK. Two Door Cinema Club, he says, are fairly new to the U.S., and he just recently found them on YouTube. Of course, he wanted to play a few of their videos for me.

I watched this one and loved it, but really? It brings me back to the days when MTV played music…without commercials.

I’ve since watched some of their other videos. I think they’re great! But I hate to break it to my kid (and all the other teenagers out there) – this band is heavily influenced by the previous generation. Either that, or they look much younger than their actual age, and I want some of whatever they had. 😉

I made someone smile yesterday

In my neck of the woods, you’ll find different homeless people by the freeway each morning. Some you’ll see on a regular basis, some come and go, some you’ll see once and never again. But since I moved here in 2008, there’s been this one older guy in a wheelchair I usually see either at my exit, or over near the tollway. He’s an amputee; I have no idea what happened. He’s old enough to be a disabled vet from Vietnam, but that may not be why he’s disabled. He could have lost his legs for any number of reasons. Regardless, he rarely has a sign. He always has a smile on his face and he waves to everyone as though he’s just saying hello. He doesn’t care if you give him money, he just want’s contact with someone. Money would be nice, I’m sure…

This is the one person I want to help when I do see him. I worry about this guy when I don’t see him. Sometimes weeks may go by and I’ll notice he hasn’t been there. I’ll wonder if something happened to him. Then he’ll appear again, smiling and waving to everyone as they drive by.

I saw him yesterday. Time was with me, and so was traffic. I pulled over and got out of the car. I didn’t have much cash on me – just the change I keep in the little drawer of my Honda, but I gave him all I had. I went up to him and told him hi, said I hadn’t seen him in a while and it was good to see him again. He got a huge smile on his face. I told him to take care of himself, and to have a good day, and walked away.

I wanted to do more. I couldn’t, but I wanted to.

Let the music take control

I’ve always had a special connection with music. If I’m down, music can bring me up again. I’ve tried explaining it to some people, but it’s difficult to explain unless music does this to you, too. It’s like feeling the music, on an emotional level. So when I’m on the downside of a moodswing, I let the music take control. I have a playlist that gets me through, and if I’m alone in the car, I crank it LOUD.

I won’t go through the whole list here – there are over 60 songs. But among those songs are:

  • Crazy Train – Ozzy Osbourne
  • 99 Problems – Hugo (no, not the Jay-Z version; this one is much better)
  • Country Song – Seether
  • Fuckin’ Perfect – Pink
  • Evolution – Korn
  • Numb – Linkin Park
  • Headstrong – Trapt
  • I Will Survive – Cake (again…. this version is much better than the original)

This works for me. This may not work for everyone. But when you find you’re at the bottom of the mood swing and can’t seem to snap out of it, find something that always works for you. If it isn’t music, maybe it’s exercise…. or knitting. Whatever hits your soul and makes it sing again. Find it and latch on to it. 🙂

Things that help

I’m trying to avoid hormone replacement therapy, so I’m relying on natural alternatives. One thing I’ve found that helps with the hot flashes is Black Cohosh.

My OB/GYN recommended this wonderful product: Remifemin. My local HEB used to carry it; as did the local CVS. Unfortunately, I can’t find it anywhere local anymore. The company website seems to be down and I’m wondering if the product has been discontinued. I can, at least, find it online for now. And it has been wonderful for relieving the hot flashes.

It claims to help with mood swings. Um….. no. Not for me, anyway. But at least I’m no longer throwing the covers off, saying, “OMG, it’s HOT in here!”